Its been a while since my last post… there has been a lot of growth in the air, so I just had to close my eyes, open my heart and breathe it all in…
I saw this posted on Facebook today and it just shed a glorious light on my own personal journey with balancing silence, calmness, kindness and here’s the tricky one… boundaries.
As a child, I lost a brother and sister and with this type of early exposure to love and loss of life, I have been raised to believe that if you were kind, grateful and generous to all, all would be fine.
What I didn’t realise was that “all” included me…
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Growing up as a blend of the East & West, my natural tendency to be kind has been something that I have struggled to balance out with my basic need for boundaries.
I usually let the boundaries slide a little… innocently I trust that it will all be fine in the end 😉 But, as it turns out – boundaries are more important than I understood.
As this incredible picture highlights, kindness in its many forms including silence & calmness is often mistaken for weakness in its various forms including ignorance & acceptance – a weakness that is often taken for granted by people who are just fundamentally different!
This difference is no more a good thing, than it is a bad thing- its part of the basic understanding that we are all a product of our upbringing and environment.
And thats where personal boundaries gently step in…
These guidelines that we create, allow us to identify ourselves with what are reasonable ways for others to behave around us and the response that we will have when people step outside the limits.
Learning to extend kindness towards others AND ones self is that tricky little rope that I am learning to walk.
In the physical practice of yoga, this is something that manifests as we work beyond our physical limits because our ego tells us to.
In the mental practice of yoga, the psychologica/emotional limits will only manifest when we learn to listen and respect the quiet voice. that simply says no. Regardless of how things appear at face value or what he or she says, we come back to that word. No.
Its a short & almost inaudible word.
But the owner of the word is worth respecting.
Freedom to be who you are in this world is immense responsibility.
Its time to be responsible – to protect, preserve and respect that voice.